I ran into someone who I shared very intense and romantic feelings with a number of years back. After a little catching up, it was clear that both of us still seemed to have some type of chemistry for the other. Since then, we've spoken and seen each other from time to time, but had agreed to take things slow and see where they went. Well recently, for no apparent reason, this person just drops off the face of the Earth and will not respond to my texts, return my calls, deleted me from their Facebook... I was left trying to figure out what happened, what did I do wrong. About a week later, this person calls and says they are sorry and needed some time to clear their minds but they are cool now. No explanation was given, but they seemed ready to proceed like business as usual. I will admit that I was relieved to hear from this individual because I honestly felt like perhaps it was meant for us to reconnect at this particular space in time. Yet even in my excitement, there is this nagging feeling about the way they just kind of flaked out like that. Is it something I bring up, ignore? Do I proceed, leave them alone???? Please help!
- Is This Meant to Be?
Chicago, IL
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Lol. I don't believe that nothing happens for "no reason." Atleast, you only had to wait a week. It can be hard to deal with someone you share a past with and have in fact rekindled a connection with not responding to you and not providing any real reason for not doing so. First advice, make sure you are treating people the way you would like someone to treat you. Sometimes things are just coming back to you and it has to in an area that you can feel so that you can learn how it feels and be more cognitant of how you treat other people. Having no respect of persons is key...deleting you from facebook and no response? Prayer is key when considering taking on another relationship. You have to know why you crossed paths again and your friend does as well. Passed a test in the past or failed a test? What is God's goal for you this go around. And when you don't know what to say, sometimes its best not to say anything yet and perhaps this is what your friend was doing. Or they had too much on their plate at the time to respond or attend to you the way they know they may have needed to. Atleast, they didn't just say don't call or text anymore??? I stress communication all the time, because people can't read minds...I don't care how well you think you know a person... And, you may not be sure why they deleted you from facebook. Sometimes avoiding news feeds from a person you shared an intimate relationship with is helpful to avoid all the external influences facebook sometimes poses on a relationship. And especially if you are getting some things from them about the person on facebook you have outgrowned and weren't looking for. Lol. Perhaps, i'm putting too much thought into this. So, either take them at "needed some time to clear their minds but they are cool" and go with the flow. Or ask them. Accepting people for who they are is key, but be leery of people that aren't willing to speak into your life for the betterment of you and your purpose and who just dissapear. Whether your experiences with the person in the past was a good thing is important to consider as well. But, at the end of the day, ask yourself what it is that you are looking for in the future. Temporal and future. Honesty, trust, openness, ability to communicate freely, accessibility...this should help you decide what to do now.
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